Custom Ceremony Services

photo Stephanie Poe Thomas, graphic Kanta Bosniak

Whether your style is fresh and natural or formal and elegant, I’d love to work with you to create the wedding ceremony of your dreams. Contact me to reserve your date and let’s get started! (540) 577-8854

It’s About You

Photographic Dreams

Your wedding is a beautiful event that you’re sharing with your loved ones. And of course, you want your family and friends to feel comfortable, respected, honored, and included. At the same time, your wedding is about you. So, first and foremost, I am committed to creating the ceremony that reflects who you are and celebrates your love story in a way that feels like “you.”

Unique in All the World



Just as every individual is unique, so is every couple. The two bring together their particular personalities and gifts, backgrounds, life experiences, hopes, and dreams… and found their shared life. So, it is only fitting that weddings reflect this.

In this wedding, we brought togther elements of Norse and Shinto spirituality. The result was magical.

Usually, I dress very plainly, as you can see in the photos on my Weddings Page. But for this beautiful wedding on the Blue Ridge Parkway, we (bride/groom/minister) wore adornments created by the groom, who is an extremely talented jeweler. If you look closely, you will see that he is wearing a Thor’s hammer.

Whether your wedding will be an intimate elopement in a rustic locale or large elegant affair in a formal setting, I woud love to work with you to create the wedding ceremony as you envision it.

Walking Your Path Together

Kristie Lea Photography

As an engaged couple, your individual paths have merged and now you are walking your path that you are creating with your shared dreams. Blessings on each step of your way!

Wedding Season is Here!

Photo by Holly Cromer

Looking forward to officiating lots of weddings this season! Congratulations to all the couples who have booked with me. And congratulations as well to engaged couples who are looking for an officiant. I’ll be delighted to talk with you about creating the ceremony you desire and officiating it on your special day.

Ya Gotta Have Heart

Artists, writers, and singer/songwriters, and filmmakers offer a specific vision of life. Whether it inspires compassion, inspiration, fresh new thinking, and joy or whether it deadens, roils up hatred, bores, triggers horror, fear, or despair depends on the state of the creator and of the consumer. I think artists have a sacred responsibility to serve life and help us expand our vision.
 
That does not mean commerce cannot be involved, Some of the most inspiring creative excellence has come out of advertising. Nor does it mean that the shadow cannot be shown in the picture. it’s in us and in our world, right? And to ignore it is silly. But how does your protagonist deal with his own ego? How does he respond to evil when faced with it?
 
“Everybody counts or nobody counts” -(Michael Connelly’s) Harry Bosch
 
The best noir antiheroes have a flinty and uncompromising moral code. It may not be the one held by the systems within which they have to work (or which they work against). But the respect for human life is always there, shining like a diamond in the mud. Our stories need to be about bigger things than revenge, ego, the vicarious trashing of “the other,” or stylish, clever, yet empty cynicism. Empathy is the key factor that drives storybook and everyday heroes, even the gruff and edgy kind. Ya Gotta Have Heart.

Art for Life

Kanta Bosniak mugs on Redbubble

Trying pull myself away from designing mugs and clock faces, so I can do some new writing and make some new paintings… whose images I can put on mugs, clocks, and use for book illustrations. There’s something so fun about making art that you can play with like this. I remember as a kid going to library class and learning about the Dewey Decimal system. There was a distinction made between the categories of Fine Art and Applied Art. The latter was considered less worthy than the former and was accorded less respect because it was made to be used by people in their actual lives.

This bothered me even back then. I loved book illustrations, folk art, and painted furniture. And I loved all the beautiful things made by artisans of different countries and times that I saw in the Philadelphia Art Museum and Penn Museum. Nobody in these museums was saying, “Well, is painting is art, but that painted blanket chest isn’t art.” Or “This sculpture is art, but that painted, beaded, feathered Native American vest is not art.” And if they had, I would have disagreed with them. Ditto if anyone had said, “This mural in Italy is art, and the hex signs on that barn in Lehigh County, Pennsylvania are not art.”

I want art on my wall and I want to drink my coffee in it. To me, both things are equally beautiful, because both things are not things so much as they are expressions of ideas and feelings mingled together that trigger ideas and feelings when seen and/or touched.

We do not decrease the value of a beautiful object by enjoying, appreciating, and using it, but rather add to it. This is why I treasure my father’s ceramic lamp. Sure, I love the workmanship and artistry. But more than that. It was his. 

 

Meet the Book Nerd

 

Photo by Always and Forever Photo

About my books
– I’m a spirituality writer with a grounded, practical side. I notice what works and then share it. I like to include humor, and offer the reader opportunities for play, imagination and creative expression. There are dual purposes here. First, to amuse the reader and set a pleasing pace. Second, to help her process and internalize the material, so it becomes a resource she owns and can draw on anytime. I’m an artist as well as a writer, and I illustrate my own books. Most of the central images in my book covers derive from original paintings. My most recent book is Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious! How to Get Your Happy Back and be Done with Narcissists and Sociopaths.

How and when I made the decision to be a writer
-The impulse to write, make art, and focus on inspiring ideas happened all at once. I was five years old and had just learned to read when my parents gave me a copy of The Little Engine That Could. Bam! I loved that book, with those wonderful illustrations and change your thinking; change your life message. After that, I started making up stories and pictures to go with them. I guess I’m still doing this, because. I think of my books as illustrated letters to friends.

My advice for aspiring writers
-What immediately comes to mind is the advice Bucky Fuller gave to a ten-year old boy named Michael, who asked Fuller if he was a doer or a dreamer. He answered indirectly, but went right to the heart of the matter, in essence, saying, “Both. Dream it, then do it.” He wrote:

“The things to do are: the things that need doing: that you see need to be done, and no one else seems to see need to be done. Then you will conceive your own way of doing that which needs to be done -that no one else has told you to do or how to do it. This will bring out the real you that often gets buried inside a character that has acquired a superficial array of behaviors induced or imposed by others on the individual.”

In other words, start with a service mentality. How can you contribute through your writing? Give your mind these questions to work with and stay open to the answers. What needs to be said? How does your authentic voice naturally want to express it? This applies in an obvious way to non-fiction, but it also does to compelling and deeply satisfying fiction as well. Narratives in which the subtext is beautifully interwoven with the story, never overwhelming it, but rather a mostly subtle presence until the emotional climax. Read others’ work. Notice what you love and ask yourself why. Practice. To be a writer, you need to write. Stop thinking of writers as different, greater, or precious creatures. Go indie, because that’s where the energy is. And by all means, find a really good editor.

Upcoming projects
-I have some fun projects I’m working on while I promote Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious! A book for engaged couples, a sweet little story book for kids 6-8 and another for middle readers and their parents. It’s a project close to my heart that I’ve been working on over a period of many years. It’s related to a series of paintings I’ve used as teaching, coaching, and lecture tools. It will come out on Kindle. I also have a recovery book for adults that’s been simmering for a while and that I’m excited about. I’m moving forward on these now that Mr. Malicious is launched, but I’ll still keep promoting it until women are fully respected in the home and in the culture. Or for the rest of my life, anyway. I would love to see a new normal established during my lifetime. Our world is changing and all of us have a part to play in creating a climate in which men and women are truly harmonious and equal partners. Let’s make it happen!

You can find my books on Amazon and other booksellers. Here’s a link to my books on Amazon: https://amazon.com/author/kantabosniak

When to Book a Wedding Officiant

We’re approaching the end of wedding season and the beginning of engagement season. Couples who are newly engaged usually start early booking the venue, and rightly so. The venue is the stage on which the wedding will take place. And the good venues get booked way in advance. What some couples may not be aware of is that this same thing happens with offciants. The good ones also get booked in advance, and sometimes waaay in advance.

There may be little holes in their schedules that can be filled in for last minute bookings. And if you have a wedding that’s not in the middle of the afternoon, an officiant may be able to do your wedding as well as another on the same day. But if you want to book the officiant of your choice for a Saturday wedding at 3 or 4 PM, you’re best off booking the officiant right after you book the venue.

Here’s another reason why it’s wise to book the officiant early, right after the venue. Good officiants are people with a very particular complex of skills and character traits. And it’s that complex blend that you will give you the goosebumps, happy tears all around ceremony that you want. So, it makes sense to secure the officiant whose reviews demonstrate that skill set early in your planning process.

Back to the play production analogy, you and your fiance are the producers and the stars of your wedding. You’re also the casting directors. When you cast the officiant, you’re hiring the third main (though supporting) character for your production. The officiant is a **supporting** character and needs to understand this. It’s YOUR play and it’s about you. So the officiant should be a seasoned performer with plenty of public speaking and wedding experience… but also someone who will honor and celebrate your love and your values, and give you plenty of input rather than prioritizing their own religious or personal agenda. So, part of choosing an officiant is making a choice based on your sense of the person’s character.

In addition, you and your fiancé as producers of the event, are hiring the playwright. This is the person who’s going to write your ceremony as well as be a supporting performer in it. So, you want to hire an officiant who is a skillful writer. But again, who will not be about pushing a religious dogma or personal agenda. Someone who will take the time to get to know you in an interview and write the ceremony that celebrates and reflects YOU as a couple.

To sum it up, a good officiant is someone who brings to your “production” empathy, emotional intelligence, writing and performance experience, caring, diligence, attention to detail, good work ethic, integrity, professionalism, and service mentality. Someone who’s committed to create the ceremony YOU desire and is willing to put in the time and work to make that happen.

The ceremony is the heart of your wedding. If you want the ceremony of your dreams, please book your officiant early. And of course, I’d love to be your officiant. I’ll be delighted to talk with you about creating your wedding ceremony. You can reach me at (540) 577-8854

 

“Spiritual/Not Religious” Weddings

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I am a non-denominational, interfaith minister, and I am happy to work with couples across a wide spectrum of spiritual perspectives.  Whether your Higher Power is God, Universal Love, Nature… whether your guiding principles are family, making the world a better place…or simply compassion, like the Dalai Lama, who said “My religion is kindness,” I would be honored and delighted to work with you.

Together, we can create a customized ceremony that reflects your values and celebrates your love. If you are less traditonally religious than your family, no worries. Most of my clients are “spiritual/not religious” couples whose families are more rooted in traditional religion, and I know how to create ceremonies that while they are authentically about the couple, also invite families in and make them feel very comfortable.

A typical couple, for example: both are spiritual/not religious. She does yoga and he finds his spiritual connection in hiking and fishing. Her family is Catholic and his is Baptist. My commitment is first, foremost, and always the couple. But it is possible to create a ceremony that will delight the couple AND their family? Yes, absolutely!