When to Book a Wedding Officiant

We’re approaching the end of wedding season and the beginning of engagement season. Couples who are newly engaged usually start early booking the venue, and rightly so. The venue is the stage on which the wedding will take place. And the good venues get booked way in advance. What some couples may not be aware of is that this same thing happens with offciants. The good ones also get booked in advance, and sometimes waaay in advance.

There may be little holes in their schedules that can be filled in for last minute bookings. And if you have a wedding that’s not in the middle of the afternoon, an officiant may be able to do your wedding as well as another on the same day. But if you want to book the officiant of your choice for a Saturday wedding at 3 or 4 PM, you’re best off booking the officiant right after you book the venue.

Here’s another reason why it’s wise to book the officiant early, right after the venue. Good officiants are people with a very particular complex of skills and character traits. And it’s that complex blend that you will give you the goosebumps, happy tears all around ceremony that you want. So, it makes sense to secure the officiant whose reviews demonstrate that skill set early in your planning process.

Back to the play production analogy, you and your fiance are the producers and the stars of your wedding. You’re also the casting directors. When you cast the officiant, you’re hiring the third main (though supporting) character for your production. The officiant is a **supporting** character and needs to understand this. It’s YOUR play and it’s about you. So the officiant should be a seasoned performer with plenty of public speaking and wedding experience… but also someone who will honor and celebrate your love and your values, and give you plenty of input rather than prioritizing their own religious or personal agenda. So, part of choosing an officiant is making a choice based on your sense of the person’s character.

In addition, you and your fiancé as producers of the event, are hiring the playwright. This is the person who’s going to write your ceremony as well as be a supporting performer in it. So, you want to hire an officiant who is a skillful writer. But again, who will not be about pushing a religious dogma or personal agenda. Someone who will take the time to get to know you in an interview and write the ceremony that celebrates and reflects YOU as a couple.

To sum it up, a good officiant is someone who brings to your “production” empathy, emotional intelligence, writing and performance experience, caring, diligence, attention to detail, good work ethic, integrity, professionalism, and service mentality. Someone who’s committed to create the ceremony YOU desire and is willing to put in the time and work to make that happen.

The ceremony is the heart of your wedding. If you want the ceremony of your dreams, please book your officiant early. And of course, I’d love to be your officiant. I’ll be delighted to talk with you about creating your wedding ceremony. You can reach me at (540) 577-8854

 

“Spiritual/Not Religious” Weddings

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I am a non-denominational, interfaith minister, and I am happy to work with couples across a wide spectrum of spiritual perspectives.  Whether your Higher Power is God, Universal Love, Nature… whether your guiding principles are family, making the world a better place…or simply compassion, like the Dalai Lama, who said “My religion is kindness,” I would be honored and delighted to work with you.

Together, we can create a customized ceremony that reflects your values and celebrates your love. If you are less traditonally religious than your family, no worries. Most of my clients are “spiritual/not religious” couples whose families are more rooted in traditional religion, and I know how to create ceremonies that while they are authentically about the couple, also invite families in and make them feel very comfortable.

A typical couple, for example: both are spiritual/not religious. She does yoga and he finds his spiritual connection in hiking and fishing. Her family is Catholic and his is Baptist. My commitment is first, foremost, and always the couple. But it is possible to create a ceremony that will delight the couple AND their family? Yes, absolutely!

Daring to be Naïve… and Savvy

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There is a certain kind of naïveté that serves us well. That open, loving, part of us is important for life force, joy, creativity, and healthy connection. But it can shut down when it’s taken advantage of by controlling and malicious people. A function of the organism protecting itself. That’s a good thing, temporarily, But longterm, when you’ve cut yourself off from your energy supply to keep yourself armored in the presence of a negative individual, your energy becomes depleted.

The first thing to do is say bye, bye to Mr. Malicious, the person. The second is to excavate and heal that precious open and loving self, so that you don’t have to stay shut down, bitter, or cynical. But now, you guard it, you protect it, and you take good care of it. You have your own warrior installed, as if you walk with a big, strong cat. And you learn to distinguish who to let in and who not to. Kindness and strength. Daring to be simultaneously naïve and savvy. That’s balance.  

Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious!: How to Get Your Happy Back and Be Done with Narcissists and Sociopaths

by Kanta Bosniak
Link: http://a.co/7oBqV6G

Images:
Top left to right: “Bye Bye Mr. Malicious A line” dress in my Redbubble store. https://www.redbubble.com/people/KantaBosniak/shop
Hallway flowers, detail of portrait of Bucky Fuller, one of a pair of fiber art wall pieces, in Kanta Bosniak Folk Art Gallery.
Bottom left to right: Image from “Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious!”, postcard from one of my artist-in residencies and shows at Omega, “Ocean Vest” by moi, collection of Edwene Gaines.

Balance

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Balance is not a state of stagnation; it’s a dynamic yet harmonious relationship of parts. It’s a not immobility; it’s a dance. A couple who bring complementary elements to a partnership and share mutual respect. A parent who sets boundaries and gives plenty of love and praise. An individual who loves and accepts him or herself and yet does frequent moral inventory and contunues to grow. Anyone who lives in the chord of strength and compassion. <3

Image: from my book, “Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious!: How to Get Your Happy Back and be Done with Narcissists and Sociopaths”

Intimate Ceremony

If you and your sweetheart are looking for an affordable, yet beautiful and well-organized wedding, good news! I’m happy and excited to announce that in addition to my independent work as a custom wedding officiant, I will also be working as Everlasting Memories Event Planning’s officiant for elopements and small weddings. I have enjoyed working with Everlasting Memories’ Brenda Taylor for years and can personally attest to her dedication and skill in planning and directing weddings. And just as I specialize in customized weddings in other contexts, please be assured that I am bringing the same quality of work to Intimate Ceremony Weddings as well. Here’s a link to Intimate Ceremony. http://www.everlastingmemoriesep.com/intimate_ceremony

Variety, the Spice of Life and Weddings

Photo by Holly Cromer, Photographer

I love doing weddings throughout the Greater Roanoke area and the New River Valley of Southwestern Virginia. Each venue has its unique charm and beauty. Each offers a particular ambience. This includes, of course, my own small wedding chapel inside my gallery downtown Floyd, which caters to the couple who wants an intimate event in a boho chic setting.

Then, there are the mid-sized venues which can comfortably accommodate a nice sized crowd, such as the beautiful Kyle House in Fincastle, which I love, and where I officiate a good number of weddings.

I love the larger venues too, such as The Chateau Morrisette in Floyd County and Mountain Lake Lodge in Giles County. These offer the advantage of choices within choices. In other words, while you are choosing a venue in the larger sense, you also have the option of choosing from the many places weddings can occur in and outside of the buildings on the property.

This coming Sunday, September 10, I invite you to come explore the options at the Annual Bridal Open House at Mountain Lake Lodge. Have fun strolling the grounds and discover the options for where you’d like your ceremony to take place… the gazebo, the overlook, the veranda, the Ballroom, The Cascade Room, Mary’s Barn… Enjoy tastings, meet vendors, and talk with me about your wedding. I’d love to learn about you and help you bring your dream wedding ceremony to life. Looking forward to meeting you,

Kanta

Annual Bridal Open House


Come see me at Mountain Lake Lodge’s Annual Bridal Open House Sunday, September 11:00 AM-3:00 PM. Looking forward to hearing about your dream wedding. Let’s make it happen!

Photo: A sampling of the weddings I’ve officiated at Mountain Lake.
Thanks to Holly Cromer, Photgrapher, Photographic Dreams, Skyryder Photography, Cari Lynn Photography,, Kendra Poston, Junebug Photography, Kimberly Manz Photography, Kemper Mills Fant Photography, and Lindsey Rickards Photography

Another New Book on the Way!


While I’m waiting for the “Bye, Bye, Mr. Malicious!” August 22 release, I’m working on a short-ish guidebook for engaged couples. It’s well under way, with cover, illustrations done, much of the text, ISBN, and book description. It’s going to be a Kindle book, so I can include lots of luscious color and still keep it very affordable! Sneak peek at the book description:

“The great news is that couples no longer have to choose between a church wedding replete with dogma they don’t resonate with and a dry, impersonal, no-guest justice of the peace wedding. There are now far more choices available for ceremonies centered on the couple’s wishes and preferences.To help you plan your special day, it’s important that you choose a client-centered officiant who will create and deliver a ceremony that matches your preferences, reflects you as a couple, celebrates your unique love story, and delights your guests. This book guides you through an easy step-by-step process to find and work with the officiant best suited to help you feel relaxed and supported and to bring the wedding of your dreams to life. Written and illustrated by veteran officiant and interfaith minister, Rev. Kanta Bosniak.”

Rev. Kanta Bosniak Wedding Services

Photo by Photographic Dreams

If you and your beloved desire a ceremony that reflects who you are as individuals and as a couple, I would like to help you make that a reality. Whether it’s just the two of you or you’re inviting five hundred of your closest friends. I am committed to creating memorable custom ceremonies that are match the couples’ preferences and celebrate each couple’s unique love story. Find out more about my custom wedding services, read client testimonials and weding professional endorsements, see price list, and more on this website at Services/ Weddings.

The Chapel Gets a New Look!

I’m a total wedding nerd. I love formal and informal ones. I love traveling to officiate weddings in venues throughout the Roanoke area and the New River Valley. And I also love hosting intimate weddings and elopements in my own venue in Floyd Virginia.

This spring, I’m excited to announce that I revamped the Kanta Bosniak Folk Art Gallery’s Chapel Room, It was something I’d been planning for awhile, and I finally took the plunge so it would be ready for this season’s first wedding here. The new version still retains its unique folk art whimsy and funkiness, but with a more romantic, upscaled boho chic look.

For more information about the Gallery Chapel package, go to Services/Weddings on this site and for bookings, give me a call (540) 577-8854