The appearance of being a “nice,” helpful and selfless person sometimes is what it is, only an appearance. Sociopaths, narcissists, sexual predators, and garden variety selfish people usually masquerade as pillars of the community. Jared Fogle, of former Subway fame, for example. Good deeds without a truly loving attitude, generous spirit, and deep compassion mean nothing. It is said that words mean little; it’s actions that count. Though actions certainly are a better barometer than words alone, it is important to pay attention to the whole array of actions, not just the charitable ones, because the charitable ones don’t cancel out the predatory ones. They are just attempts to mask them. Of course, you may not be privy to knowledge of that whole array. What you do have is intuition, and it’s important not to override it by valuing appearances over your own gut feelings.
“Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal…And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing…And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.”
From 1st Corinthians, 13 KJV